How to Date Your Spouse - Putting the Romance Back into You Marriage

Marriage is a commitment of caring, time, and energy, Face it “Marriage is working hard daily to meet the needs of you spouse and children” But if we look outside the “perfect world”, we find that real life settles in the details of keeping a marriage alive and healthy sometimes go by the wayside.  When that happens the vitality in a marriage can dim. This process is called “Drifting”. During this period there is really no arguments, ,conversations  continue regarding the business of the day, but the evening conversations touching each other’s hands and the flirting in the kitchen have eased. The intimacy has drifted out of the relationship. No, need to think your marriage has hit the rocky shore, it can be revived with the proper attention, Hop

ly, this article will minister to you at your level and provide a few things that you can do to bring intimacy back into your relationship.

Tips to light the flame of intimacy

11)      Commit to a time and day to date your spouse every week. When you make a commitment you are telling your spouse they are important. It also says that you are making you

22)      r relationship a priority. The first step is simply to start dating. But you say, I married my wife so I would not have to date. Your spouse still needs the dating experience for the same reasons they needed it prior to marriage. They want to feel loved and desired  Anything will do for a date but begin making the commitment to a weekly date and making it a priority.  Go to the movies, or out to dinner even if all you can afford is the local fast food restaurant. 

33)      Activity and non-activity dates.  Activity dates are those that involve travel, a movie, the theater, movie in the park event.  These type of date fail to provide real opportunities for conversation. Non-activity date includes a candle lite a quiet dinner or picnic where you can talk and catch up on your individual lives. This allows you an opportunity to reconnect on a deeper level. You can discuss what your dreams and hopes are to each ve these adult moments together. Use these dates to become better parents time alone and how it will benefit them.  Once children understand, they will usually encourage you to go out and talk if you don’t.

44)      Smooth and Hold Hands.  Enjoy your time together.  Kiss and hold hands.  Park in a romantic spot and make out like teenagers.  Put a little sizzle back in the union.  Have fun with it and you will find yourself connecting just like brand new lovers.  These are the little things that tend to go away first as soon as children come and the reality of a busy life sets in.  Just holding hands is such an intimate connection.  And when is the last time you just kissed?

55)       Plan Romantic Get Aways  Your relationship needs a special getaway weekend where the two of you enjoy doing things together.  Remember when you could not wait for the phone to ring, It doesn’t have to be a long vacation, a weekend will do.  It also doesn’t expensive or exotic.  “Find a great bed and breakfast or a hotel room with a Jacuzzi.  If you decide to try a bed and breakfast, be sure to check out the accommodations first.  Some are more geared to families than romantic getaways.  Others are just for couples.  Ask about any special rules.  If you want to have a glass of champagne in your room but they don’t allow any food or beverages it could dampen your time together.” (Families 2012)  So contact them for their policies.

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